The other day my daughter was on her Facebook account and I happened to catch a glimpse of her screen. Her friend had commented, “I am still a virgin because I have only had oral sex. “ I did not know what to say. I wasn’t sure if my daughter was talking about having sex or being a virgin. I did not say anything because I did not want her to know I looked at her computer. But now I am not sure if I should or how to talk with her about it or, if so, how to begin the conversation. Please help. 

My wife just found out that I have been viewing pornography for the past six years of our marriage. She is furious. I feel bad, but I don't understand why she is so upset. She hasn't been sexually open to new things and I have felt that she didn't care if I took care of things myself. I don't know how to respond to her. I actually enjoy viewing pornography, but I don't want to ruin my relationship with my wife. She told me that my viewing pornography is like cheating on her. I don't get that at all. How could viewing pornography be like cheating? Is there something that I can do to help her calm down? The other question I have is about stopping pornography. I only view once or twice a week when she isn't around. I am not sure I want to stop, but I don't want a divorce either. Please advise. 

For whatever reason, my wife has had a sudden increase in her sex drive. She is like an 18 year old boy, thinking about sex every 30 seconds. It’s not a problem as much as a curiosity. We have been married for 25 years and all these years I have been more interested in sex that she has, but she has always been willing. Now she is the aggressor and wants sex once a day instead of our typical once a week (not that we do it that often). My question is why? The doctor says she is nowhere near being pre-menopausal and she 10 years beyond the typical sexual peak for women, so what is it?  

My wife has gained about ten pounds since we were married and is no longer attractive to me. I want her to lose the weight. she starts-then eats more. How can I get her to lose weight so I can be attracted to her again? 

My husband had an affair ten years ago. Our marriage survived it--we do well--but now when we make love, my husband doesn't look at me. What is going on? Is he still thinking about HER? 

My husband and I are going through a nightmare of infertility. Our sex has become mechanical, on demand when the time is right. I fear we will never recover our intimacy. I desperately want a child but not at the expense of the marriage. I hate seeing other women with babies. My husband is tired of my depression and the hormones add to it. Is this worth it? 

My boyfriend doesn't trust me. I've cheated on him before-twice-now am being faithful and keep getting the third degree. I want to leave him but I love him and don't want to make a mistake. He's the first nice guy I have dated. 

I've been with my girl friend for 17 years with many ups and downs. Four years ago I was babysitting the kids one night when she brought two male workmates home. It was late and I was sleeping, but when I awoke she was lying on the floor with one of them. She had on a teeny dress that left little to the imagination. I told her workmates to leave and it has caused arguments for years. Recently we let the skeletons out of the closet. I told her I had slept with other women and she told me she slept with another man - the same guy she was laying on the floor with that night. They both denied anything happened that night and said it had happened at a previous time. In your opinion, am I being lied to?  

I'm tired of feeling like sex is just an act to satisfy my partner. How can we make it a jointly beneficial to both of us?