Running on Empty

How do you feel when you get hungry? I mean really hungry? Maybe you get irritable or tired. All of us experience a feeling of emptiness when we need nourishment. Similarly, marriages can suffer from a lack of nourishment that can leave the relationship feeling empty. The outward expression of that starvation may be arguing, irritability, lack of communication, or isolation.

The irritated, tired, and empty feelings are telling you that your relationship is need of replenishing. It needs to be fed. As you would not ignore a painful hunger, you should not ignore the signs that your relationship is starving. A starving relationship should be addressed by both partners, and it should be a priority in your lives.

The Fill-up

The question that needs to be asked is "What feeds a relationship?" The answer is very simple: time, love, and attention. One of the simplest ways to provide these three elements to your relationship is spending deliberate, quality time together.

The number one recommendation by psychotherapists around the globe for marital discord is going out on a date once a week. It's quality time together that your relationship craves. It may sound counter intuitive to say that couples that are feeling frustrated with one another need to spend more time together, but it is true.

We are not just talking about the same old dinner and a movie. To revitalize your relationship with your evening together, you will need to be bathed in attention. In essence, love is simply the free gift of our attention. A date night is the perfect place for couples to give the attention that each partner needs. Once you understand the relationship between love and attention, you can see why going out to a movie is just not going to cut it.

Tips for Success

The first important step in planning a date night is to plan something new. Planning will bring anticipation and energy, and the fact you are doing something different will create the variety that every relationship desires. Some people respond well to verbal attention so a great date would be to go to the park with a takeout pizza, a tablecloth, place settings for two, and a small candle. A portable CD player for ambiance would add to the effect. Personal, intimate conversation is one of the best ways to bring attention to a partner and the relationship as a whole. Often, discussing the marriage and its importance validates the relationship, makes it real, and supplies a sense of renewal. Date nights do not have to be elaborate, but they should indicate a certain amount of devotion and commitment.

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