How Can I Tell If My Partner is Having an Affair?

It can be difficult to tell for certain if your partner is being unfaithful without definite proof. However, there are some signs that you can look for. An unfaithful spouse may spend excessive time on the phone, on the computer, or away from home and is likely to become overly defensive if questioned about these things. Your physical relationship may become less active or may lose the sense of emotional intimacy that it had before. Your spouse may also become short-tempered with you and disproportionately irritable or angry over things. He/she is also likely to offer a lot of excuses for his/her actions, but not offer to change.

Instinct can say a lot in this situation. If you feel like something is wrong in your relationship, be honest with yourself and your partner and seek help.

How Can I Recover from Infidelity?

When a spouse is unfaithful, there are three areas that need to be addressed in terms of recovery: you, your partner, and your relationship. Find the support that you need in order to work through your reactions, for they are honest and deserved. It can be difficult to turn to friends or family because of feelings of embarrassment or shame; in that case, look for a counselor or a religious leader to turn to. If you choose to remain in the relationship, it may be best to attend marriage counseling or a marriage education class as a couple so you don't return to the same old patterns. You can rebuild your partnership into something new and better, but it takes devotion to the relationship and the healing process.

Can I Ever Really Trust my Partner Again?

It will take time and honesty, but you can rebuild that trust together if you both choose to. Have an open and honest partnership where you are granted access to all phone records, computer passwords, or other information that will help you feel comfortable and rebuild trust. If your spouse has nothing to hide, he/she will appreciate not having to prove faithfulness and honesty to you each day.

You need to remain open about the affair. Pretending it didn't happen or making it "the little secret we don't mention" will cause your mind to fabricate ideas about the affair rather than finding out the truth. Knowledge and honesty are absolutely necessary to the healing process.

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